feeling really sad

[shojam]

What is wrong with me this morning??????? I am feeling so sad and really missing the cigs, don't know where this has come from.

Capitan......you need to come and kick my bum.........

[crazysue]

Awww Shojam, sorry to hear that you are feeling sad. I think i know just what you need.... You need some chocolate meditation.

Here’s how you do it:

Take a small piece of chocolate – good quality if possible (meditiation involves becoming more aware of your experiences, its nice if the experience you’re becoming aware of is positive!). Hold it gently or have it near at hand so it doesn’t melt.

Make sure you’re sitting comfortably, on cushions if need be, and allow your body to relax and feel supported by the earth. Notice the sounds in the room or outside the room, and gradually bring your attention inwards, to your breath. Take a few moments just breathing and being aware of how it feels to be here, now.

Now bring your attention to the chocolate in your hand. Notice the wieght of the chocolate, its texture. Is it warm, cool, soft, hard?…. Notice any urges to gobble it up, but try to gently bring your attention back to the sensation of the chocolate in your hand. If they are closed, open your eyes now and gaze at the piece of chocolate in your hand. Notice its shape and colour, and how you feel about it. Do you like it?

It’s time to smell the chocolate. Slowly bring it up to your nose, noticing when the chocolatey scent first reaches your senses. When it does, just sit for a moment appreciating the aroma. It might be mixing in with other smells that you hadn’t previously noticed… It might have a stronger scent than you’ve noticed chocolate to have before… The urge to gobble it may be even greater. Notice these things and enjoy the feeling of sitting comfortably, taking in the smell of chocoalte.

Allowing your attention to soften now, so that you still have an awareness of the feel, and smell of the chocolate but widening your focus to take in other sensations, bring the chocolate to your mouth and take a small nibble. What is the first taste of the chocolate like? How does it feel on your tongue? Notice any flavours and sensations, however anticipated or unexpected they are.

Now, place the rest of the chocolate in your mouth, enjoying the tastes you are experiencing, the flavours subtle and strong. Hold the choclate in your mouth for as long as possible, letting it melt, letting your tongue explore its textures and tastes.

Finally, when the chocolate is gone, bring your attention back to your senses. Notice whether there is still a residual chocoaltey taste in your mouth, whether the smells in your awareness have changed. Bring your attention back to your breath and to the feelings going on inside you. Rest for a moment, just breathing, and being aware of how you feel – is it different in any way to how you felt at the start of the meditation?

Bring your attention back to the rest of the room, the sounds you can hear, the cushions or floor beneath you, and the weight of your body on the earth. When you’re ready, open your eyes.


And in case this fails, i'm sending you a virtual hug. (((( hugs )))
Hope you feel better soon

[Kitkat]

Originally Posted by shojam

What is wrong with me this morning??????? I am feeling so sad and really missing the cigs, don't know where this has come from.

Capitan......you need to come and kick and bum.........

Shojam, I know just what you need and it's not a ciggy, so forget all thoughts of ciggy things.

Will be in touch later


KK

[crazysue]

Chocolate meditation with a KitKat, there you are Shojam... problem solved lol

[carol62]

sorry to hear your feeling sad Shojam

i do hope your day improves



btw Sue that was a great reply i shall try that out next time i get the urge for choccy instead of just gobbling it all up in one go

mind you with it being so warm it might melt in my hand beforehand

[ShazzaH]

Hi Shojam

Oh dear, sorry you're not feeling good today.

Something is making you sad, but it's not 'them'. You know you don't want one really, but because you're feeling down, nasty nic monster is trying to trick you - perhaps his one last attempt before he shrivvles up and dies the horrible death he deserves? Get mad, and tell him to poke it!

Stay strong and smoke free.

BW, Shazza

[Kitkat]

Originally Posted by crazysue

Chocolate meditation with a KitKat, there you are Shojam... problem solved lol

Sue is so right Shojam, come into my world, of soft music, candles flickering the scent of venilla wafting from room to room and of course plenty of Kitkat.

KK

[shojam]

Originally Posted by Kitkat

Sue is so right Shojam, come into my world, of soft music, candles flickering the scent of venilla wafting from room to room and of course plenty of Kitkat.

KK

Oh if only KitKats were cadbury

Seriously though, today was harsh. I was all over the place and I don't know why. Feel better tonight, gonna have a nice shower, put the jim jams on and maybe even get the OH to make me a nice cuppa to go with the HUGE bar of whole nut I am going to devour slowly lol

Thanks for your support guys......it means a lot xxxx

[Kitkat]

Glad your feeling better, have a good w/e.


KK

[shojam]

Thank you master KK, hope you have a good one also